Finding a Best Friend

In my previous post I talked about having best friends. Although Jesus should be the number one friend in your life, it's a blessing to have earthly friends as well. I mentioned that I've had four best friends in my lifetime. I really enjoy having a close friend and it's been several years since I've had one. This fact has always been present in my mind and when it comes to the forefront, sometimes I get a little depressed. Thoughts like, "Why don't I have a best friend?", "Why does everyone else seem to have a best friend and I don't?", and "Is something wrong with me, do I turn people off?" run through my head. I don't believe in living a constant pity party. I believe you should take action to change your situation, if you can, or accept it and be content. I want to change my situation so I sat down to think about it.

Let's look again at Proverbs 18:24, the verse I referenced in my last post. I quoted the end of the verse, but the beginning says, "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly...". This isn't exactly rocket science, but it's an eye-opener for someone like me. I'm not a shy person, but I don't usually approach people. If I'm sitting next to you and don't know you, chances are I won't speak unless you speak to me. I'm not stuck-up, unapproachable, or stand-offish, it's just not in my nature to say, "Hi my name is Christina, what's yours?" Finding a friend requires me to be friendly to others and to go beyond just saying "hi" and "bye" while at church. Maybe my potential best friend is sitting in a pew Sunday after Sunday, waiting for me to speak to her. Whatever the case I haven't been making the effort needed to begin and build the friendship I desire.

Matthew 7:7 says, "Ask , and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find ; knock, and it shall be opened unto you". All this time I've been wanting a close friend and I haven't really told the Lord about it, I haven't consistently prayed and asked for one. God wants us to tell Him our needs and desires, He wants to bless us. Therefore, I'm adding this request to my prayer list.

Whenever I dwell on the fact that I don't have a best friend, it's generally from a selfish point of view. I think about the benefits I would gain from such a relationship. John 15:12 says, "This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you". God can use me to minister to another lady through friendship, to love on someone other than myself. I've experienced the relief of a listening ear and the encouragement of uplifting words. God can use me to be that for another sister in Christ, and that's what I should focus on in my search.

If you have a best friend tonight, thank God for them. If you'd like a best friend let's be more friendly, ask God to grant our desire, and stop focusing on self. And let's choose to be content with Jesus no matter what happens.

In Christ,

Christina Gibbs

Once raised by a Virtuous single mother, I am now a strong Virtuous, Fashionista, who cherishes my best friend, who fear’s the Lord, who’s best friend is the Lord, that waits on discernment from God, who is living for today, who is a woman of strength, that understands the power of my words, that is aware of God’s presence, is allowing my light to shine, whose growing to be more passionate about serving the Lord, who can listen without pride to constructive criticism, whose fear does not hold me back, who runs to the Lord first about everything, who strives to stay on God’s course, who is saved by the grace of God, who admits to being envious of others at times, who knows my worth, has a calming peace, who gives thanks daily, who wants to be a godly example to others, who is able to forgive my enemies, who has high expectations of me, who has been created in God’s own image, who lovingly submits to my spouse, who understands God's love, has an intimate relationship with God, supports Breast Cancer Awareness, with a family who honors me, Virtuous friends who love me, and with a giving spirit.